4 methods to get free of his past

To free itself of its past, several therapeutic methods exist. How to choose between the psychogénéalogie, psychoanalysis, ACT, and EMDR ? Our lighting to find the help that best suit according to what we have experienced.

Cécile Guéret
– Updated on February 13, 2019 at 18:04


Release from the burden of our ancestors

With the psychogénéalogie

“Imagine an “attachment” never opened that we would have sent our ancestors “, features Juliette Allais, a psychotherapist specializing in the analysis of transgenerational, author of Heal his family (Eyrolles). Events the family history that our ancestors were not able to neither understand nor accept, and that some descendants are challenged to integrate. “Whether in the form of a physical symptom, or mental, or they may have the sensation of being parasitized by the suffering of another, they find themselves captives of a link to the past, beliefs or taboos that prevent them from finding their place in the present. “In order to” become again a subject of its history “, Juliet was Going to advise you to first identify what does not belong to us and us away from ourselves. It is then to draw their family tree, ” with omissions, oversights. Sometimes, some do not know where to register in their tree or invent a parentage fictitious. No ! We are children of our parents, we have only a single place.” But to find it, and free us from our burdens, it is still necessary to get out of a false version of history, return to our ancestors in their place and honour.

Information : analyse-transgenerationnelle.com

Be free of the repetitions that make us suffer

With psychoanalysis

Psychoanalysis is an experience to be laborious, expensive, and took us to see what we would like to continue to ignore it quietly, thanks to the pushback, ” explains Valérie Blanco, author of The Effect of couch (The Harmattan). For the lacanian, ” we are caught in a program unconscious – fact determinations, family events, meetings, etc. – which leads us to reiterate the same deadlock, in which we also find the “enjoyment” “. If, for example, we are constantly pushed back by our partners, that is, we repeat, without realizing it, our past, but also that we find a “strange satisfaction” as to relive the same type of relationship with a parent rejecting them. Psychoanalysis takes a number of years, but it is to ” use the word down to the bone and getting to the frame of this programme, unconscious, to the core, incurable, our unique, explains Valérie Blanco. We are going up to this time extremely difficult for the “désêtre”, the disillusioned radical, where we realize that the fundamental cause of our malaise is tied to our incompleteness, to the fact of never being able to tell us fully by the language. We realize then that there is nothing more to say. That talk is nonsense “. The edge of the abyss, then we can ” bet on informed choices, to do with the enjoyment incurable, in a new relation to the world. Psychoanalysis becomes, finally, a living experience, full of drive and lightness. She offers to desire his life.”

Information : causefreudienne.net

Release of our behaviors become inadequate

With the ACT

“The events of the life and emotions are like waves. If I fight, I drink the cup. If I try to intellectually understand what is a wave, I’m doing a thesis, exposes the psychiatrist Jean-Christophe Seznec, who has led the work ACT, therapeutic applications (Dunod). The ACT [acceptance and commitment therapy, “therapy, acceptance and commitment”, editor’s note] we suggest to accept this and ride the wave to bring us closer to our values. For this, we musclons our intuition, our flexibility, psychological and our ability to make choices. “This method, which relates to the “third wave” psychotherapies, cognitive-behavioral (CBT), offers four steps : observe, accommodate, negotiate and engage. Example : during a working meeting, you will find someone with whom you have had a disagreement. Before, you would have perhaps been aggressive (” what a bastard ! “) or you would have been devalued (” I’m zero, it’s my fault “). Rather than let them rule your feelings (trembling, trouble breathing…), your emotions (anger, anxiety…) and your thoughts, ” put yourself at the top of the waves : observe and accept what you are experiencing, advises the psychiatrist, who teaches the mindfulness meditation. The idea is to replace the “shoulds”, “I should” with “I choose, depending on the context” “. Then negotiate : think about the behavior that would be more suited to your values. Finally, get involved : “We are certainly not responsible for our emotions, but we are free to use the energy of anger for us to fight with each other, or to shine in a meeting, or store our desktop. “

Information : contextualscience.org/afscc

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