When it is a question of orgasm, there is a there is a significant disparity between men and women; scientists call this difference the ” gap orgasmic “. How to understand this discrepancy between the sexual fulfilment of the female and male? And especially, how to reduce it?
By Gonzalo R. Quintana Zunino, a doctor of neuroscience and Conall, Eoghan Mac’cionnaith lecturer, Concordia University, Montréal originally published on The Conversation
Study the orgasm is no easy task. The research that we are conducting at Concordia University, in Montreal, is concerned with the psychology of sexual behaviour. We are particularly interested in the ” controversy “ surrounding the orgasm is clitoral versus vaginal orgasm.
We conducted a literature synthesis on the current state of knowledge and different points of view concerning this phenomenon in women. The characterization of the female orgasm is the subject of debate for over a century. Although scientists have an idea of what constitutes an orgasm, there is still much uncertainty regarding the manner in which it occurs.
The orgasm was one of the rare phenomena that occur as the result of the simultaneous interaction and highly complex of several physiological mechanisms and psychological. There may be reasons for the evolutionary explaining why men are more likely to reach orgasm during sex. However, we should not restrict ourselves to this idea. In fact, a part of the problem lies in the bedroom.
To have and have not
Each person has its own preferences when it is a question of sexual practices. However, we have all one thing in common: we know what it is like to have an orgasm, or not having them. It can happen to us to have a sexual intercourse without reaching orgasm, and this is quite normal. In fact, people can have sex for different reasons. There remains, however, that many studies have shown that women achieve orgasm less often than men during sex.
For example, in a survey of national scope conducted in the United States for an orgasm reported by women, men have said three. Heterosexual men are said to have frequently, or always reached orgasm in the course of an intimate relationship, or 95 % of the time.
This disparity seemed to be less prevalent among homosexual and bisexual people, while 89 % of homosexual men, 88 % of bisexual men, 86 % of lesbians and 66 % of bisexual women have been told to achieve orgasm during sex.
Now, let us look more closely and this may explain the gap orgasmically. The research shows that the type of relationship that we have with our partner there is for something. Thus, in the case of an individual engaged in a long-term relationship, the gap will tend to reduce, while it will be rather inclined to be exacerbated in the case of a casual sexual relationship.
Thus, the women involved in a long-lasting relationship say they reach orgasm at a high frequency, up to 86 % of the time, while those who prefer the casual sex mention having an orgasm 39 % of the time. Please also note that heterosexual women often reach and easily orgasm through masturbation.
Similarly, the more the partner has a thorough knowledge of the female genitals (especially the clitoris), the more likely that the woman has orgasms frequently are high. Finally, and most importantly, the respondents noted that the type of stimulation the most reliable way to reach orgasm in woman is the oral sex.
We don’t know why there’s such a difference between casual sex and long term relationships. But, a part of the answer may lie in the way in which we communicate our desires and expectations on the sexual level, as well as in our attitude towards sexual pleasure.